Monday, 26 January 2026

Jan

 The year has started well professionally. The deadlines are a challenge but also possibly accelerating learning.

I am slowly trying to make lists and cleaning/organizing the home one place at a time so we can keep the home somehwhat manageable before the baby arrives and possibly helpful for the move later in the year.

As I am trying to keep the house clean and trying to get Zaya to make less mess and leave to school in time, I am seeing so many gaps in how Zaya does things through the days. Trying to talk discipline to her proves to be very stressful as she resists it or becomes naughty. It also requires me and Ajey to hold standards ourselves and be aware of what we want so we note what we miss and try to correct it.

The big questions for this year are

- the move

- nanny here

- nanny there

- food

- how to discipline Z

- Rat work

- Canada schedule

- Baby schedule and s

leep training


Zaya has been going skating with her dad every Sunday for the last three weeks. She's doing well. As I was cleaning she's also curious about makeup and necklaces and such. So she got a beautifully blue stoned pendant on a chain that she wore over her white sweater and her skating gear is all blue too - she looked super cool! It's on of my favorite pendants so I told her she can have it and remember every time she touches the necklace that she always put time into practicing something that makes her happy - like skating today. She was fully into what I was saying and called her chain a magical adventure chain for playing and skating and doing fun things. It was an awesome moment. 

She also says weird things like most kids do that are sometimes beautiful to hear - I know you mom and I always knew you and I want you to be fine. It would make no sense that a 4 year would say something randomly like this but also feel like she said something that makes my entire life make sense , lol.

Zaya things we do

 I often think I'm not doing enough for Zaya , but if I actually think about it in spite of just schedules we do our time and thought into exposing her to different activities.

Her day care was an early choice to help her grow in the right environment where she learnt 

- colors

- social interaction

- eating 

- stories and art

- alphabets

- block building 

- countries and languages 

- music 

- napping 

- rhymes 

At home we played 

- matching cards

- went for walks

- spent time with scooter

- learnt alphabets and words

- played with barbies 

- blocks and imagining cities

- singing and dancing 

- limited TV time.

- coloring 

She traveled and met folks

- Hawaii / India / north carolina / texas / Canada 

Activities :

- She used to see me do yoga and try that.

- tried gym for a bit

- tried swimming twice 

- skating with dad

- dance

- basketball 

- scooter 

Of course we've also trained her in daily habits 

- diaper free restroom use

- bathing 

- sleep

- expression

She can do better in some areas 

- not making mess / putting things away 

- eating food by herself

- morning schedule 

- listening and learning from others before wanting to prove she knows something.

Sometimes I do see posts of kids just 5 years old on social media one kid especially that was able to do multiple things well and wonder if I've not focused enough on Zaya.

That kid is

- chatty , confident , teaches her dad sometimes a lil authoritatively but I guess it's fine. 

- knows phonetics

- knows to recite stories

- is good at both English and two native languages 

- plays drums

- dances on the stage. 

- plays tennis and is really good at shots. 

- has cultural exposure

- dices vegetables really well.